What is marriage all about? That’s a great question. Many couples realize the importance of marriage but don’t really know how to get there, which is ok! Living with your spouse can be the breeding ground for lots of cute couple stories, and that’s exactly what’s in store as we communicate a bit of marriage advice for newlyweds.
This is an updated republish of a post by Shelby Spillar.
Finding Successful Marriage Tips
As soon as you say, “I do,” you begin crafting your marriage story, which is a beautiful thing! No one can really sit down and give your specific union a healthy marriage checklist to go over. Each couple is different. However, we can all learn successful marriage tips from couples who have “been there, done that.”
So, get ready to read a few cute couple stories to make a few points that can help instill a few elements of a successful marriage.
Your marriage story begins the moment you say, “I do.”
4 Tips: Marriage Advice for Newlyweds
1. Be gracious in the little things.
No woman likes to be left stranded without toilet paper. It’s especially no fun at 3:30 am. I let out a big (loud) sigh as I thought “how hard is it to replace the roll of toilet paper?” I climbed back in bed still slightly frustrated about what had happened minutes earlier.
My husband rolled over, kissed my forehead, and said “I forgot to put the toilet paper back on the roll didn’t I?” Apparently my frustrated sigh gave it away. He apologized, and I realized it was an honest mistake.
We laugh about it often. Be gracious in the little things, you never know when you may need him to be gracious too.
Being gracious is one of the best elements of a successful marriage.
2. Openly communicate.
If your man is anything like mine he has no clue what you are talking about when you use the words: duvet, euro sham, or valance. All of which were important elements to me as we decorated our bedroom. Blue paint was blue paint to him, but to me, it was “Stonewashed” or “Distressed Denim.”
I saw the bedroom as a place we would share some of our most intimate moments, discussions, and even fights. I wanted the room to be pleasing to the eye, as well as, relaxing.
Once I communicated my vision he was more enthusiastic in helping me capture my vision for the room.
Successful marriage tips include open communication.
3. Be patient.
My husband had a funny habit of placing his dirty clothes on top of the hamper and not inside the hamper. I was frustrated every time I walked by and opened the lid and placed the clothes inside.
I mentioned it to him, and ever since the clothes have been in the hamper. As I look back, his room while we were dating indicated he had no idea what a hamper was. So I guess having the clothes at least on the hamper was progress.
Any healthy marriage checklist should include patience.
4. Make sure you have quality time.
A honeymoon is a wonderful way to start your marriage together. I loved having a week with just my husband sharing plenty of quality time with none of the distractions of “real life”.
Going back to work certainly cut back on the amount of time we were able to spend together. I realized that when we were together, we had to make good use of it. Living in the same house did not change our need for intimate time together.
We are sure to set aside time to take walks together, have coffee dates, and meet for lunch. We put it on the calendar, and it gives us both something to look forward to. It has helped us to continue deepening our marriage and friendship.
Crafting your marriage story includes lots of quality time.
Pondering Marriage Advice for Newlyweds
No matter what, you as a couple can concentrate on the elements of a successful marriage that are important to you and your future spouse. Communication, patience, time together, and being gracious are important pieces of marriage advice for newlyweds that you can start to incorporate even before the big day.
Your relationship is worth working on so that you can have a union that will stand the test of time. Knowing the importance of marriage and crafting your own cute couple stories will make for many memories along the way. For more relationship tips, just click here.
Michael NewmanGreat article! My poor wife had to go (and is still going) through some things learning to “live with a boy.” Part of it’s our personalities as well. 🙂
JenniferI am sure we girls have some things for you guys to get used to, too! It’s all part of the fun. Thanks, Michael for stopping by!!
Sammye BakerThe article is very well written. Thought the humor was really fun. Proud of Shelby. Marriage is worth all the effort.
JenniferI am glad to have Shelby on board. Thanks, Sammye!
Alison HowardGreat article! So well written and such high-quality pictures too! Can’t wait to read more!
JenniferThat is wonderful to hear, Alison! I am looking forward to more with Shelby, too … she is such a great person.
Rachel GoShelbs, I cracked up with the toilet paper story! I love you and am so proud of you for becoming an author of a column! Brilliant work my dear friend!
StephanieGreat advice here, that’s for sure! My husband and I follow all of these tips with intense focus. We’re always finding new ways to cultivate our marriage and grow together! Communication, graciousness, and LOTS of love is so important.
Angela Ricardo BetheaThose are some wonderful tips to keep in mind. Totally agree with you on that and I especially lean more that communication definitely helps a lot in marriage.
Helena MarzThis is great advice on newlyweds and having a good healthy marriage is important, being able to work things out when things go wrong. I agree with all the points you mentioned! ❤️
JessLots of great advice here and I love how it’s given through the perspective of different stories. The TP at 3:30am story is very relatable haha and so sweet at the same time 🙂
Megan ElliottThis is so great and spot on! Any long-term relationship requires a lot of work, dedication, honesty, and communication.
JessicaI love these simple yet very crucial tips to a great start of a marriage. Communication is so multilayered, but the most important to set the tone for a lifelong relationship. So true!
DeborahThese are such spot-on tips! I think all relationships (not just married folks) requires so much work!