Your mom is probably just as excited as you about your wedding day, and for a good reason. Since the day you were born, she has been dreaming about what your big day would be like. And you can honor her by allowing her to perform unique mother of the bride duties at your wedding.

Perhaps she helped you finalize all the details for the big day. Or possibly you want her to be just as surprised as your guests when you walk down the aisle. It’s still a big day for her, too! If you are looking for a way to make your mom feel extra special on your wedding day, here are five unique mother of the bride duties to incorporate on your big day.

Why include your mom on your wedding day?

Your special day is a collaboration of folks you want to be involved. From bridesmaids and readers to the one performing your wedding ceremony, there are opportunities to include loved ones. However, don’t forget about one important person: your mom.

Sure, she’ll be in the front row, cheering you on and wiping a few tears away. However, there are other ways to make her feel a part of your day. Our ideas for duties for the mother of the bride can get you thinking about new ways to connect with your mom on one of the biggest days of your life.

What are mother of the bride duties?

Great question! Of course, depending on your relationship with your mom, there are various traditional duties. It’s normal for the mother of the bride role to include tasks such as helping during the planning process and zipping the bride into her dress.

Normally, the MOB is the last one seated before the wedding party enters. Additionally, the MC typically introduces the couple’s parents at the wedding reception. Beyond those normal expectations, what you add to your mother of the bride duties list is up to you. It’s a fabulous way to honor your mom on your special day.

Unique Mother of the Bride Duties Checklist

We don’t suggest having the MOB do all of the ideas below, but pick one or two to get her involved. Consider her comfort level and her strengths when you read the list below.

1. Ask your mom to give a reading during your wedding ceremony.

Have your mom read a poem, lyrics to a song, or a passage about love. You can have her choose something you’ve selected, or let her pick one to make it feel even more personal.

Having your mom read a passage during the service is a special and easy way to include her in the ceremony. Be sure your mom is comfortable with it before you ask. 

2. Show your appreciation with a personalized wedding gift.

Giving a gift may seem simple, but this thoughtful gesture will go a long way toward making her feel truly special. Your mom will help you get ready for your big day. Therefore, a little gift can be a way to show her how much you appreciate all that she has done for you.

Whether it’s a piece of jewelry, a frame that you can later put a wedding photo in, or a handmade gift special to something she likes, there are no wrong answers here. Giving a gift is especially thoughtful if your mom is more of a behind-the-scenes kind of person.

3. Do a first look with your mom.

First looks are usually what you think of when you think of couples. However, this can be a special thing you do with your own mother instead.

Her reaction to seeing you in your dress for the first time will be priceless. Be sure your photographer is nearby so you have a photo to cherish for a lifetime!

4. Ask her to include a keepsake from her wedding day.

If you are looking for something borrowed, ask your mom for something from her wedding day. There are numerous ways to incorporate something from her big day, such as a cake topper or even her wedding veil.

She will love having these special mementos passed down for your wedding day. It will make the wedding feel more special.

5. Use her talents to make your wedding day memorable.

Does your mom have any creative skills or unique talents? If she is excellent with arts and crafts, have her make wedding favors or decor. Is she skilled at public speaking? Then, have her speak during the reception or give a reading during your ceremony.

This is not only an excellent way for you to make your mom feel included in your special day, but also gives her a chance to be a part of everything. Your guests will love seeing the unique ways you and your mom personalized your wedding.

Final Thoughts on Mother of the Bride Duties

A wedding is special for everyone involved. If you’re looking for a way to make your mom feel even more special and appreciated, these mother of the bride duties of the day are sure to help!

photos: Fallon Michael, Hermes Rivera, Dmitry Zvolskiy, and Amanda Martin