Although you’re looking forward to your wedding day, there is a whole lifetime together to focus on. Concentrate on the little things that can make a big difference in your marriage. Our list of 20 is simple to do!
Strengthening Your Relationship
Marriage isn’t just an art but a science, and happy couples all over are looking for ways to “hack their relationship” to make it as strong as possible.
While there is no skimping on a long-lasting marriage, there are a few little things you can do that will make a huge difference.
Things to Make a Big Difference in Your Marriage
1. Give compliments freely.
Whether it’s how they look today or something they do well, tell your spouse that you notice!
2. Greet each other warmly.
Greet your spouse warmly whenever you see them. As a result, even if you are having a difficult or frustrating day, try not to let that stop you from giving them the loving greeting they deserve.
3. Figure out what you like to do together.
Whether it’s a shared show, hobby, or something else, find something that you both enjoy doing together.
4. Focus on saying kind words.
Positive words go such a long way in a relationship. Therefore, say kind things to your spouse, even if it’s just a small compliment.
5. Touch each other in meaningful ways.
Physical touch is important for relationships. So whether it’s a lingering kiss, a long hug, or just holding hands, don’t forget those things.
6. Be thankful for your partner.
Thank your spouse often, even if it’s for the chores or things they do every single day. Additionally, let them know you appreciate them.
7. Be willing to compromise.
No one gets their way 100% of the time in a relationship. As a result, acknowledge that, and don’t be afraid to compromise from time to time.
8. Snuggle often.
Even if it’s not cold outside, snuggle up with your spouse whenever you have a few minutes.
9. Wear a smile.
You would be surprised how much a warm smile from your spouse can mean. Also, don’t discredit this small gesture.
10. Be a good friend.
While you are their lover, it’s also important to be a good friend to your spouse. Additionally, a good foundation of a solid friendship will strengthen your relationship.
11. Apologize humbly when you’re wrong.
Don’t be afraid to own up to your mistakes and apologize when you make them.
12. Have meaningful conversations.
Go beyond asking, “how was your day?” Use conversation starters to spark genuine conversation between you and your spouse.
13. Open up about things that are bothering you.
Don’t let problems sit there and linger over time. For example, if something is bothering you, be open with your spouse about it.
14. Continue dating each other.
Continuing to date your partner includes going out on date nights too! Don’t forget to date your spouse even when you’re married.
15. Keep laughing at each other’s jokes.
You may have heard the joke a hundred times already, but still, laugh anyway.
16. Kiss each other goodbye.
Before you leave for work or when you first get up in the morning, don’t forget to give your spouse a smooch.
17. Communicate openly.
Be open and honest with your communication. Let your spouse in and listen to them when they do the same.
18. Give each other personal space.
It’s okay to give each other personal space to pursue hobbies or spend time with their friends.
19. Forgive each other completely.
Learn to forgive your partner when they mess up and don’t hold it over their heads years later.
20. Spend time with your in-laws.
Our in-laws aren’t always the most pleasant people to be around. However, take the time to spend time with the people that matter the most to your spouse. Of course, this sometimes includes your in-laws.
Save making a big difference in your marriage!
It doesn’t always take a grand gesture of something groundbreaking to make a big difference in your marriage; these little things will have a lasting impact on your marriage long after they’re done!
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BethLove it, love it, LOVE it! These are SO little, however, the lack of too many of them is what can sometimes lead to strife in the marriage, and sometimes, even divorce.
StephanieI love this list! One thing my husband and I aren’t great at is date nights. Between finding a babysitter for the kids and trying to not spend money, we hardly ever go out. We do have great communication, though, and quite a few of these come down to communicating with each other.
Ntensibe EdgarNnniiiccceeee…I am all in for the never-ending warmth to my partner! She will literally have to chase me away and my kisses and hugs.
briannemanzbThese may be small things but they do make a huge difference in our relationships. I love giving compliments to my partner.
Rose Ann SalesThese are all really great and very helpful tips! I think giving your partner his/her personal space is really important
Kristy BullardLove the suggestions – and they do work! It’s funny how powerful a little kindness and affection can be in a relationship.
ChloeThese are such good tips! We’ve been married for 10 years now and it is so important to be intentional with your words. Communication is key!
Sara | mshealthesteem.comOh these are all perfect! I appreciate that you added the encouragement to continue dating one another. That’s so important and makes a huge difference in keeping that magic alive ♡
NishAll very good points – especially keeping a good relationship with your in-laws. It all sounds so easy, but it’s quite difficult to implement, unfortunately 🙁
JenniferHa! I 100% hear you on that one. Truly!! It’s a big effort (with lots of boundaries, unfortunately).
Elise HoPeople sometimes forget what a difference that a small gesture can make.