Have you been dating for a while, and you’re wondering if you’ll get married next year? Maybe it’s time to get the conversation started! We’ve got four things to think about if your partner hasn’t proposed yet. From answering questions to alleviating fears, here’s what you need to know to get the process going.
Are you always the bridesmaid and never the bride? Maybe you find yourself waiting, hoping, and praying that your partner is going to ask that all-important question. Do you feel like it should be your turn?
If you have answered yes to those questions then perhaps now is the time to take that next step with your partner. Make 2022 the year you get wed! But how do you go about doing that? It’s easier than you may think to get engaged.
Here are a few ideas on how you can move things along. Take the next step in your relationship with our advice on what to do when your partner hasn’t proposed yet.
1. If finances are keeping you from getting married, make a financial plan.
Let’s be honest here, weddings cost money. We have all heard the saying that marriage is a simple affair. However, a wedding is a totally different thing altogether. The truth be known, it can be as elaborate or as simple as you choose for it to be.
But the financial side of things can be a huge factor to put anyone off asking the question, so why not make a plan yourself? You could simply start putting money aside for it. Another option is to sacrifice a few of your luxuries to put the money towards a wedding.
Showing initiative and having a clear financial plan in place could be the way you get your partner to finally pop the question.
2. If your partner never talks about marriage, be the one to bring it up.
Set the wheels in motion by simply bringing it up in conversation. Talk about friends getting married, discuss your future and where you hope to see yourself in five or ten years’ time.
Even be blunt and ask about how they feel about weddings and marriage in general. This is an important conversation to have. You need to be clear you both want the same things in life and for the future.
Being on the same page about getting married is critical, so broach the topic if your partner hasn’t proposed yet.
3. If your partner is worried about the wedding planning process, make decisions yourself.
Some people can’t think of anything more boring than planning a wedding. If this sounds like your partner, take all the burden away.
Start planning your special day in advance. Additionally, make decisions on s major factors like the season you want to wed or the size of the guest list. Showing initiative and ownership could be what seals the deal for a partner who hasn’t proposed yet.
Conversely, if you are the one who isn’t keen on planning, tell your partner. Let them take the lead, or pass the reigns along to a full-service planner.
4. If you are tired of waiting on a partner who hasn’t proposed yet, do the asking.
Sometimes partners just can’t take a hint or they’re afraid to ask. You may have stopped at every jewelry shop to browse those beautiful rings.
Perhaps you’ve looked longingly into your partner’s eyes every time a wedding invite landed on your doorstep. However, everything has been to no avail.
So if you are sick of waiting on a partner who hasn’t proposed yet, take matters into your own hands. If you’re sure this is the real deal, then take matters into your own hands. Therefore, pop the question yourself!
One great advantage of this is actually choosing your own ring. You could even build your own engagement ring if you wanted. How unique would that be?
Save our tips on a partner who hasn’t proposed!
Of course, you can gauge your partner best, and frank conversations can help. It’s important to make sure that you are on the same page as some folks don’t want to get married. Try to figure out the disconnect and consult our four points to take the next steps towards getting engaged.
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Heather CastilloI haven’t been in this situation. Luckily, my husband and I both started discussing marriage around the same time because it just felt like the right next step.
MaureenThese are great suggestions! I actually was in this situation before but turns out I was just being impatient! LOL I think having a conversation about it helps as well. I remember past relationships where the topic just never came up and I think that’s a red flag because if you are ready to make a commitment and the other person isn’t then it could potentially mean you aren’t on the same page. Either way, a conversation should happen.
Kristy BullardThis can be a tough conversation to have, but it’s an important one. And, it’s good to set the tone for open communication that will continue throughout the whole relationship and marriage.
MarysaIt is good to be on the same page when it comes to getting married. I definitely think you can be engaged for too long. These are useful ideas for moving things along!
Lucy IvanThanks for sharing these ideas! If you are ready to marry, but nobody talks about a wedding, I agree that the best is to start such a conversation. You need to know if you and your partner have the same plans for your future together (but be prepared for surprises… personal experience)
Talya StoneIf you are tired of waiting…do the asking! Love this point. Because we live in modern times and after all…..why not?!
MillieGreat advice! I actually proposed to my husband and he said yes! This April we will celebrate our 32nd wedding anniversary! So ladies, be assertive. if you want to get married, ask him!
JenniferI love this so much!!
Alita PacioMarriage is never easy. It`s very important to be financially ready and stable before it.
Beth PierceMarriage is an important topic to discuss. And a one-time conversation is not enough. We gotta talk about it over and over until you get a clear decision of what you both want
briannemanzIt takes a lot of courage to do these but I will do my best!
ClaudiaIt can be hard to do the asking but if you have been together for a while and you are just waiting, it might be worth it. Having the conversation is important.
Emman DamianI have mixed feelings about this article. I think initiative is good but it should always be on the right timing. Sometimes you can’t force it as it becomes one of the reasons for relationship collapse.
ThenaI love the idea of proposing. Long gone are the days when it has to be the man who pops the question!
NeelyDefinitely great advice! It’s a tricky thing to navigate!
Ntensibe EdgarHhhhmmm….I love this! So many times, we must take matters of the heart like this, into our own hands and do the asking without waiting on our partner(s)!
SubarnaGreat…I am sure these to tips will surely help many. And so many marriages will be there on the way after reading this post.